Updated: "A friend in need is a friend indeed”

It seems like the ‘hot’ topic of the….week (?) is friends.

Soo…. I got an hour and a half to make my say… (and I suck at this…. no…really)

NO I will not talk about my past friendships. Ok…maybe I will mention a few but seriously… I had friends as soon as I was born.

NO I will not talk about how depressed I am that I still haven’t succeeded in finding this ‘true’ friend. Cos I’m not depressed or emo at all. I’m totally happy with my friends.

YES I do understand others opinion cos I have been there. I have been used lots of times. I have been backstabbed, I have been peer pressured to conform to their level of thinking.

(man I can’t concentrate with all that loud noise in the background… guess this won’t get done til tomoro)

Now I believe that my role here in this world is to be a friend. I’ll be there for my friends if they need me, lend my shoulder to cry on, try and steer them in the right direction when they turn suicidal, celebrate when they’re happy. These characteristics may seem like a “true” friend. But I think the word “true” is just making life too sophisticated.

I guess a long time ago I used to search for this “true” friend. But every time I looked for one, all those efforts go to waste. And all those times with this ‘so-called- “true” friend’ go to waste.

Life is short… not to be wasted…

That was when I realised that my friends are all “true”. We’re all connected in some way in this friendship circle.

I found this quote so I can support my point of view. Only the second sentence is relevant but.. I’ll chuck the whole thing there anyway.

“Be courteous to all, But intimate with few,
And let those few be well before you
give them your confidence. True friendship
is a plant of slow growth, and must
undergo and withstand the shocks of
adversity before it is entitled to the
appellation”
-George Washington

(yes I’m currently surrounded by books with quotations)

I try my best to be the best friend I can be. I tend to immediately give people my trust. (stupid no?) but like that quote said, friendship bonds slowly grow. And when they grow, they will become stronger. And there has to be a balance of the good and bad times. I’ll laugh with them, I’ll mourn with them, I’ll make sure I am at their side. I want to be their friend until the very end.

So instead of me looking for one, I try to be a friend. I’d like to cherish my friends that I got now. And make some more. Those that backstab/use me without realising, I learned to ‘forgive and forget’. If I come across a situation where they say that they don’t want me anymore, I’ll say ‘that’s fine’ and move on. I will not forget them completely.

Even though my high school friends went apart to study towards their career, we are still friends, even if we haven’t talked to each other for over a year. We always remember each other and treasure the times spent together at the benches by the trees, in the classrooms, in the corridor and in the formal and graduation. We won’t forget each other and we look forward to seeing each other again in the future.

My childhood friends. One I haven’t seen in….14-15 years now. We haven’t contacted each other or anything. But I’m sure she will remember the moments running around like mad and playing with Barbie dolls. And her birthday party. The other one…we finally saw each other face to face when she recognised me on Orientation day at Monash. In a way, she is a bit like a rival cos she’s so smart and pretty and all but I’m glad that she was there at my sisters funeral and it was really good to talk to her again. I don’t see her as a rival anymore. I went back to seeing her as a good friend that I look up to (I still see her as super smart and all :P)

And omg my other group of high school friends! (I’m a floater so I tend to float around between groups) I thought our bonds aren’t that strong and who turned up to my sisters funeral??? I didn’t even told them at all but they managed to find out (through facebook/sms/msn/myspace). I was quite touched cos I didn’t expect that my friends would be there for me that I burst into tears.

(damn…gotta go…I’ll update this later)

[just got back from work]
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Dammit I drifted off halfway through last night…. *edits*

Now…if I gather all my friends…all of their characteristics combined will be this “true” friend. I think it’s quite rare to have a friend like that

“If you have one true friend you have more than you share”
-Thomas Fuller (1608-1681)

Henry David Thoreau once said, “The most I can do for my friend is simply to be his friend”

Hence, as a summary of all that random crap I added last night, all I can simply do is to be a friend.

I wish people luck and success that they will find a “true” friend. No…really…